tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post5995507667467781836..comments2023-11-05T02:59:51.270-06:00Comments on shine out loud: Violence UnSilencedshinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05232945031746773775noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-7765721554696413042009-10-08T20:29:08.691-05:002009-10-08T20:29:08.691-05:00Thank you for opening up about this. I had a simil...Thank you for opening up about this. I had a similar situation, not exactly. Wasn't high school, or a party, or any alcohol involved, but a very similar situation. <br /><br />I always called my situation borderline. <br /><br />but you are SO RIGHT. They don't think they did anything wrong. But remember, they aren't good people.Emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02566578665412007120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-64725626965274723142009-10-06T13:32:35.215-05:002009-10-06T13:32:35.215-05:00Thanks for writing this.Thanks for writing this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-90231208624832924642009-09-30T11:09:13.380-05:002009-09-30T11:09:13.380-05:00Damn! I'm so sorry!! Something very similar ha...Damn! I'm so sorry!! Something very similar happened to me 40 years ago - will nothing ever change?!! It took me nearly 30 years to admit I was raped and several more to stop visualizing running the perp through with a flag pole -- brass eagle and all!! I've finally reached the point where I no longer wish to kill him with my bare hands. . .Peghttp://dcpeg.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-34041887461965919262009-09-30T08:33:48.786-05:002009-09-30T08:33:48.786-05:00Of course it was rape. And you were a kid! You hav...Of course it was rape. And you were a kid! You have nothing to be ashamed of. But by writing about it, by coming out and stating it, you remove some its power over you. It will never leave you (I was gang raped over 30 years ago), but it will loosen its hold. As survivors, we cannot keep these secrets. We have to shout it out loud. The key word in "date rape" is RAPE.bozoettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16608773751475479059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-75836058423661933192009-09-29T05:49:23.502-05:002009-09-29T05:49:23.502-05:00I can only tell you that I repeat most all of the ...I can only tell you that I repeat most all of the words in your comments... WOW. Thanks for sharing. You're very brave. <br /><br />I'm speechless. <br /><br />Good luck sweetie. I wish I could do more. Okay ... do something. Anything.Maryxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10374102286000982901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-58192345996175121872009-09-28T17:15:34.297-05:002009-09-28T17:15:34.297-05:00okay - clearly I'm behind on my blog reading. ...okay - clearly I'm behind on my blog reading. Gotta say all I could think is "dude, that is fucked" He was ABSOLUTELY in the wrong. I'm sorry that this happened to you and it was brave for you to tell the your story and stand up for yourself.XO, Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10331671646787549530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-6591663503134219752009-09-27T16:21:03.621-05:002009-09-27T16:21:03.621-05:00so brave of you to share this. it brought tears to...so brave of you to share this. it brought tears to my eyes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-7881646753591472592009-09-26T01:10:31.102-05:002009-09-26T01:10:31.102-05:00It's brave of you to share this, i'm sure ...It's brave of you to share this, i'm sure it must leave some pain deep inside. And it's so mean for your girlfriend to just spread this story. If i was her, the best thing to do is paying people to beat that guys up. :(Andharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08341293139717998410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-78721607763836878602009-09-25T16:49:17.589-05:002009-09-25T16:49:17.589-05:00I'll again commend you for having the balls to...I'll again commend you for having the balls to share this. <br /><br />Balls are something this dude doesn't have. And I hope I'm being literal; as in, I hope he's lost his nutsack in a painful accident.Phronkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13130514499521837002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-54614934253565474182009-09-25T15:03:39.877-05:002009-09-25T15:03:39.877-05:00I had a friend in high school who had this happen ...I had a friend in high school who had this happen to her. And the guy was someone we were all friends with too. A lot of people didn't believe her and he never acknowledged it. He still tried to be friends with us all after the fact. It is so unfortunate how many people do not understand what rape truly is. You're remarkably brave for posting this and I hope it helps others come to terms with their experiences.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-77785837245847470292009-09-24T22:41:21.830-05:002009-09-24T22:41:21.830-05:00You know mine, however not as...invasive...as it w...You know mine, however not as...invasive...as it was. And that it wasn't as a teenager. But thank you.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629988912075918818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-58651032203349642692009-09-24T21:30:13.255-05:002009-09-24T21:30:13.255-05:00you're an amazing, strong, brave young woman a...you're an amazing, strong, brave young woman and i am SO proud of you for doing this.The Krakenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08130296484029792631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-14282109381085427792009-09-24T20:21:41.729-05:002009-09-24T20:21:41.729-05:00I am so sorry. You are a strong, incredible woman,...I am so sorry. You are a strong, incredible woman, and it breaks my heart that this happened to you. It shouldn't happen to anyone, but it does, too often. What a wonderful project - I believe that you and others who participate are very brave, and I think your words will go a long way towards "eradicating abuse [by overcoming] the culture of silence and shame that exists yet today."Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04227442044026940210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-26358595910241530322009-09-24T19:54:03.048-05:002009-09-24T19:54:03.048-05:00Thanks for sharing this. It's definitely not e...Thanks for sharing this. It's definitely not easy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-89102572557546864342009-09-24T19:08:26.257-05:002009-09-24T19:08:26.257-05:00You are believed here, my dear. I'm impressed ...You are believed here, my dear. I'm impressed and grateful that you posted this, as hard as it was to hit "Publish." Really. You have guts that I ain't got. ((Hugs))inkpuddlehttp://www.puddleofink.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-55970136379601166222009-09-24T18:58:07.100-05:002009-09-24T18:58:07.100-05:00You are so very brave and wonderful for sharing th...You are so very brave and wonderful for sharing this with all of us. Far too many people have been in this situation, and it just breaks my heart that many consider it a rite of passage rather than a crime, which is exactly what it is. Hugs to you, lady.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09654586812177663986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-91918395743411982092009-09-24T18:35:22.867-05:002009-09-24T18:35:22.867-05:00I just reread this and cried and I love you and I ...I just reread this and cried and I love you and I wanted to come back and tell you how very much.Just A Girlhttp://thepqnation.com/justagirlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-70327029114153148512009-09-24T16:55:25.557-05:002009-09-24T16:55:25.557-05:00Thanks for sharing this story. I have a teenage ra...Thanks for sharing this story. I have a teenage rape story as well. You are very brave. Big hugs.The Peach Tarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01587235197620014751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-71530990531269359362009-09-24T14:48:24.127-05:002009-09-24T14:48:24.127-05:00(((HUGS)))(((HUGS)))Florahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07706566319711525473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-29899968201516647072009-09-24T14:32:20.710-05:002009-09-24T14:32:20.710-05:00Thank you for sharing, more women need to share th...Thank you for sharing, more women need to share their stories because maybe, just maybe, it'll help stop this unbelievably offensive violence. Most of the women close to me, now and in the past, have been raped or otherwise sexually abused. I've interupted more than one rape and have held her hand while she's reported it to the police. I've learned that beating the 'man' that did it to a bloody pulp solves nothing, and I've learned there are no words that can help other than to say thank you for being brave enough and strong enough to talk about it.Dannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-71562557878885557392009-09-24T13:48:36.222-05:002009-09-24T13:48:36.222-05:00YOU, miss, are a strong, brave, incredible woman.
...YOU, miss, are a strong, brave, incredible woman.<br />You're my hero.Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06190392468517517044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-88322535948613264112009-09-24T13:32:22.972-05:002009-09-24T13:32:22.972-05:00i'm positive there is a special place reserved...i'm positive there is a special place reserved for him in hell. <br /><br />~the martini queen<br />www.themartinichronicles.wordpress.comMrs. Casehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019377557104114920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-68662144659624012942009-09-24T12:35:34.512-05:002009-09-24T12:35:34.512-05:00May a thousand spiders lay eggs in his peehole, an...May a thousand spiders lay eggs in his peehole, and may his scrotum turn black and fall off. <br /><br />A girl should not have to verbalize "No" for it to be wrong. He knew damn well what he was doing.<br /><br />Jay and Travis, I have extra heavy duty string for the weed whacker, pick me up on the way Bitches.Edhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11425014053974689270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-82060953741362639452009-09-24T12:33:10.058-05:002009-09-24T12:33:10.058-05:00This must have been so hard to share - I'm ver...This must have been so hard to share - I'm very proud of you. If enough strong women like you talk about it, I like to think it will happen less often.BigSishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07361972786547203371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-279920339896233708.post-69841142812257018032009-09-24T11:49:42.396-05:002009-09-24T11:49:42.396-05:00Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry this terrible th...Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry this terrible thing happened to you. You should have punched him in the balls at the mall when he tried to go in for a hug.Melly Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17938908796831150264noreply@blogger.com